A man’s or woman’s life changes tremendously after marriage. However, it depends on the spouse that changes are for good or bad. This is also applicable vice-versa. Let me explain in the following points:
1. It’s the spouse who gives the knowledge of responsibility to make individual decisions—–How?—— By trusting in husband’s decisions, by asking him to make his own decisions instead of blindly following his parents (mostly mom) decisions. Wife can also ignore her responsibilities to improve the husband and suffer, because husband only follows his parents decision.
2. Before marriage or after marriage every normal Male (from 11 years till death) is strongly attracted to females. Before marriage they don’t have any strong reason to be loyal other than love. In fact love to opposite sex is always dynamic and totally depends upon likes and dislikes or the situations or mental conditions or thoughts. So given an opportunity (if females give opportunity) changing girl friends is quite common. However after marriage the person is same but before doing or thinking anything men asks themselves the question of loyalty. And the way they convince themselves becomes the deciding factor for their actions or thoughts towards other females after marriage.
It’s the wife who have to let the husband know that after marriage if he decides not to be loyal to his wife then he can also expect disloyalty from his wife. (Lol, if wife gives such clear message then no husband in the world can become disloyal to his wife).
3. Before marriage men prefer to spend lot of “me” time (maybe because his parents didn’t give him enough time when he was a kid and were busy making money). After marriage both the partners have to encourage family time. Or else the biggest threat in a family is either no communication or miss communication due to lack of time spent with each other. If husband doesn’t understand this fact then at least the wife should and make the husband understand it. Lol if both believe in ego and doesn’t understand the power of communication then we know what happens.
4. Another important thing which happens after marriage is that with years, showcasing love to each other reduces. Although both know that down in the heart they love each other but because we are humans subconsciously we believe only what we see or feel. Therefore for both the partners it is necessary to showcase love to each other. It could be by a kiss or a hug. Lol obviously not the way it was before the marriage through a rose or a chocolate or jewelry. Because that cannot be repeated again and again and are not as genuine the emotions are. Wife’s show their love by making good or favorite food of husband but the husbands wont notice until a hug or a kiss or unless wife’s tell them that “I Love You”. Lol trust me all the husbands are dumb but only after marriage to know and understand the love of wife. So they need to hear and feel that wife’s love them. Lol before marriage men have special antennas which tells them that a girl loves them when they just smile. Hahaha after marriage those antennas catch all the wrong signals.
5. Men love to get dependent which is love as per them. Before marriage it’s the mother on whom they want to get dependent. However, after marriage it depends on the wife that whether they understand this silent unseen love or not. Wife’s should create situations for example taking care of food, sleep and entertainment like movies. Many learn with time and many never learns it and complain that the husband only want to be his mother and not wife.
P.S: All the above points are same for women. After all we are all humans.